Dating Your Spouse

A few months ago I posted about those questions my friend asked us. With that post I mentioned how I would like more time with my significant other. Since then we have come up with a system that works for us. It allows us to have us time without needing to leave the house specially since we don't have sitters lined up waiting to baby sit. 

He works 4 nights out of the week while I work 2 out of the 3 he doesn't. Here is what we do: whomever is home with the boys has them tucked in by the time the other gets home. This is usually easier for me to do since the earliest he's home is around midnight. Once the boys are asleep, the time between then and about 2am is us time. We have date night every night...our own way! Sure we're sacrificing sleep every night, but we do it to nurture our relationship. 

I cannot stress the importance of nurturing the relationship enough. If you do not take care of the foundation your walls will collapse. We've done everything from baking, to watching movies, drinks and long talks that take us to our early days. Those talks are always so nice because they remind me of the man I fell in love with. It helps me not to focus on the man I see today. Everyday I see the hardworking stressed out father who wants nothing more than to give his family the most. Our talks however, bring out the carefree 19 year old who wanted nothing more than to build our empire from scratch...not that I don't madly love both. 

Yesterday, I read an article about the reasons why you should have sex with your spouse everyday. Of course I was immediately skeptical. The truth of it was though that it was stressing how much you should nurture your relationship. We're not fairy tale perfect I don't think anyone is. We fall off the wagon, too. 

I leave you all who are tired and want to crash from your long days everyday with this. Even if it's 30 minutes a day spend that one on one. Invest in your relationships. Enjoy each other's company. If it wasn't for those moments we spend one on one...everything that has raised to break us would have broken us. 

Xoxo

Touched Out.

How many of us feel like we need a break? I don't mean a nap or a trip to the grocery store alone. Although those things help...I mean a real break. A good amount of hours without someone needing us or screaming for us. I love being the mother of my boys, but sometimes this mommy needs a minute or an entire day to hear myself think. 

Even sometimes when I try to post on here I find it difficult to collect my thoughts. You know in the mist of finding our own place and all we are still yet to sit down and create a budget outline for ourselves? Sometimes we even have to put off conversations because the boys just wont let us think straight. 

Feeling touched out doesnt happen often, but when it does I just hope for someone to rescue me. Someone to lend a hand before I break. In those moments I want time alone with my honey the most. We don't get date night often. Our lives are mostly working and the boys. With no family around to "help" us we don't get out much. 

We have this rule though, every night after the boys have gone to bed and whoever was at work gets home we spend at least 1 hour together. Its like date night every night and it makes up for not being able to have a night to ourselves or a weekend for us. 

Last week we planned a quick date and it fell apart. We were disappointed, but we just laughed. We don't ask for much. Just one night a month and we don't even get that. Meanwhile, everyone else our age with kids gets out once every week. 

If you cant make date night happen often what do you do to make up for it?