Damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

Browsing online yesterday I came across an article highlighting points on the struggles of motherhood and how women instead of empowering one another opt for shaming each other. I've always said what works for me doesn't have to work for you, but let me be and I'll do the same. I have over the past months found myself. I have realized the kind of mother I want to be. I know I want to help women feel empowered in her decisions especially parenting ones. 

Often times women are shamed for not breastfeeding or for feeding their child store bought baby food. Arguments such as "you're lazy", "it is what is best" are used. The problem with that is that instead of offering information; the mother is immediately shamed for the things she chooses to do with HER child. Not everyone is able to make their own baby food. Not everyone can breastfeed. I won't get into the reasons behind it, but we all know that not being able to do such things does not make us or break us as a parent. It does not define the love we feel for our child. 

Have you ever said such thing about a mother? Aren't we all on the same journey? Don't we all have things to learn everyday? Days are long and tough. If a mother for example asks on a mommy site a question about formula feeding her child and how its going...why feel the need to say things such as "that's why I will never use formula" "formula is poison". Seriously ladies, why not offer options such as donor milk? Stop the mommy wars. We already live in a society where we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. Let's stick together! Support each other. Offer a hand in rough times. 

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/confessions-unnatural-parent-230400625.html