Not sure why. Maybe it is his age, but the past week has been so tough on Mase. He throws a tantrum for just about everything. They range from fake crying I just want my way to full blown exhausting himself. I try SO very very hard not to yell at him, but sometimes its so many I want to throw the towel in. I'm convinced my discipline is all screwed up. I have for to be screwing something up. It is such an inner battle to gently parent through these tantrums of his.
This past week at work I began to observe how other parents deal with their kids tantrums in public. Most parents were red in the face embarrassed and feeling flustered. I've been there. I was there today. What happened?
I took my sons to the store to buy an item. My youngest was in the stroller, and my oldest needed to walk beside me. He wanted to push his brother, and I told him he needed to wait until we got inside the store because there were cars coming our way. He became very upset and began to throw himself on the ground. I took them back to the car and chose not to go into the store and return home.
Was that the right choice? Maybe? Maybe not? I don't really know, but I don't know what else I can do. I refuse to hit him and I didn't want to spend the entire time at the store dragging him. He seems to understand the consequences of his actions and quickly goes into the "ok mami" stage. I chose to still not go into the store because that would be like backing out of the consequences he got.
Once in the car I told him we do not act that way. We can get hurt by throwing ourselves where cars pass by and that he was embarrassing himself with his behavior. He cried and screamed, but eventually settled down. I'm not one for CIO, but man I don't know what else to do.
Could that have been handled differently? Possibly. I know I'm not alone lots of parents have been here, are here and will be here. My son has become very defiant. Always testing limits. He knows the boundaries, but chooses to attempt to cross them.
Anyone else?
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