Taking Care of Your Relationship.

Parenthood comes with lots of sacrifices and adjustments. Not sure about you, but with me parenthood came with the sacrifice of sleep, every dime must be worked around the needs of my children and things that directly affect them. In the most of all that I have a relationship I cannot neglect. 

See, when I discovered I was expecting my main concern was how my children would affect our relationship. Would our communication go down hill. Would our financial status get the best of us? Would the lack of time together drive us to the brink of a break up? I didnt obsess about it, but it was something that was in te back of my mind. 

Last night my SO and I went on a date for the first time in I don't remember how many months. That makes me sad in a way. I know I am not alone, but I begin to wonder how there are mothers going out 1-3 times a week. My life is work, home, kids and back at it the next day. That's when sacrifices come in. 

Because my boys' father and I have no help what so ever from any outside source our work schedules work around each other. That means we both are never at home on the same day for long. Never with enough time to get away...not that anyone would be willing to take the boys for us anyway. There's always an excuse from family. There's no grandma that offers to help us. There's no sitter we can trust enough to pay her for a couple hours because our first and last experience didn't go so well, so what do we do? 

We sacrifice our sleep! When our boys are down for bed we spend every last waking minute together until our eyes give out. We try to keep it all alive with texting each other cute little things or doing nice things for one another. My favorite is letting the other sleep a few extra hours and I know he would agree. On the off chance that my brother or his is willing to watch the boys we go to dinner or a movie, and sometimes we're even willing to sit in the car at a park for no reason but just to enjoy the quiet time.   

Keeping our communication is so crucial. Its how we take care of our relationship. If something makes one of us uncomfrotable or hurts us whatever it may be; it is so important to speak up. We will sometimes start talking about nothing in particular and thats how we allow each other to speak up on certain things. Parenthood doesn't have to doom your relationship as many put it out to be. You dont have to go out every week to make it special. It can be as simple as a movie and ice cream after the kids have gone to bed. 

Until next time! ❤️